I'm sat, surrounded by chaos and mess, after a weekend away for my birthday that was in equal parts a delight, and a slog through feelings of guilt, impending doom, and fear of the inevitable pile up of delayed caring duties. Take my decision, blind of the subject matter, to put down my spreadsheet and take time out to read this, as a reflection of the ripples you are sending out into the world. F
Bless you, Fiona. And a belated HB. I know that feeling so well and have had many similar comments off-post, too. Big love to you and yours, and I hope you got some help when you got back, birthday girl! xx
So I just came across you, Lindsey, responding to Tim Lott, and this was a wonderful read for me, today. I tend to pack my weekends full in anticipation that I will feel I’ve done something ‘for me’ - and that image of stuff not put away resonates! F time work and a partner who rightly sees life in more balance than me, and has fun (being homo ludens a man of play) - lucky him- means I’ll tidy the mess that is the house, before I get down to writing. Which is my ‘holy graile’ - time and space to write.
Thank you also Fiona - for the honesty and mentioning guilt, impending caring duties, stuff like washing not put away and so on. Messy table-mine is rarely not - whatever I do. It’s everyone else’s too. (VW and her Room comes to mind).
Great phrase! Controlling my space- instead of my mind.
The house is messy yes it is, but I have time to type a story I wrote. About freedom and thought and love. Going there now. Thanks again, for voicing your impressions. 😊
Hi Helen, welcome to the gang and thank you for taking time to reply so thoughtfully to this newsletter. I really hope you stuck with the story and refused to be drawn into the domestic!
I'm sat, surrounded by chaos and mess, after a weekend away for my birthday that was in equal parts a delight, and a slog through feelings of guilt, impending doom, and fear of the inevitable pile up of delayed caring duties. Take my decision, blind of the subject matter, to put down my spreadsheet and take time out to read this, as a reflection of the ripples you are sending out into the world. F
Bless you, Fiona. And a belated HB. I know that feeling so well and have had many similar comments off-post, too. Big love to you and yours, and I hope you got some help when you got back, birthday girl! xx
So I just came across you, Lindsey, responding to Tim Lott, and this was a wonderful read for me, today. I tend to pack my weekends full in anticipation that I will feel I’ve done something ‘for me’ - and that image of stuff not put away resonates! F time work and a partner who rightly sees life in more balance than me, and has fun (being homo ludens a man of play) - lucky him- means I’ll tidy the mess that is the house, before I get down to writing. Which is my ‘holy graile’ - time and space to write.
Thank you also Fiona - for the honesty and mentioning guilt, impending caring duties, stuff like washing not put away and so on. Messy table-mine is rarely not - whatever I do. It’s everyone else’s too. (VW and her Room comes to mind).
Great phrase! Controlling my space- instead of my mind.
The house is messy yes it is, but I have time to type a story I wrote. About freedom and thought and love. Going there now. Thanks again, for voicing your impressions. 😊
Hi Helen, welcome to the gang and thank you for taking time to reply so thoughtfully to this newsletter. I really hope you stuck with the story and refused to be drawn into the domestic!
Real self-care is on my list. I like this reminder to take the slow back into the everyday.
Absolutely. It's so hard in our culture to allow ourselves guilt-free rest and slower times, isn't it?